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Emancipate Your Mind: 104: What Is Healthy Attachment and Why Does It Matter?

Do you crave close relationships with others but find it hard to connect on a deep level?

Do you often feel lonely or misunderstood?

Do you worry deeply that those you love will abandon you?

You are likely struggling with an insecure attachment style.

For the next few episodes, we’re going to talk about what we can learn about how we relate to others through the lens of attachment theory. Understanding our attachment style gives us the power to recognize our learned behavior patterns in relationship with others so that we can identify why we’re struggling to connect to the important people in our lives or why we’re constantly worried that those we love will leave us. Knowing what’s going on gives us the power to change our behavior patterns in relationships and get the outcomes we want.

Because the levels of control in high demand religion often make it very difficult to develop secure attachment, many of us have never had safe, trusting relationships modeled for us. In today’s episode we’ll begin our exploration of attachment theory with secure attachment so that we have an idea of what we’re aiming for as we heal.



Cherry, Kendra. “What is Attachment Theory? The Importance of Early Emotional Bonds.” February 22, 2023.

Gibson, Thais. “How to Spot a Securely Attached Person (on the first date!). November 25, 2021. The Personal Development School. YouTube.

Leo, Briony. “What is Attachment and Why is it Important?” November 5, 2017.

Mikulincer, M., Shaver, P.R. (2007). Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and ChangeGuilford Press.

Snipes, Dawn-Elise. “What is Attachment? Creating Secure Attachment Part 1”. December 27, 2021. DocSnipes. YouTube.

The Attachment Project. “Attachment Styles and Their Role in Relationships”. July 2, 2020.

The Attachment Project. “Secure Attachment: From Childhood to Adult Relationships”. July 2, 2020. Attachment


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