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Emancipate Your Mind: 101: Calming Internal Values Conflicts

Have you ever experienced that feeling of being pulled between two competing values?

It can feel like you’re in the middle of a huge game of tug of war as you wrestle between two values that mean so much to you. No matter what you choose, it feels like you lose something important. Sometimes the fight is so fierce that we feel stuck or paralyzed between the choices- choosing in essence not to make a choice. Sometimes we feel guilty or resentful no matter which we choose.

In this episode, we explore why it can be so hard to decide between two values, how binary thinking comes into play, and how we can begin to get these two parts of our brains to work together and perhaps create even better outcomes than we first imagined.



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Harvey, Benjamin J. “Values Conflict: What They Are and How to Resolve Them Effectively”. August 30, 2018. YouTube. 

Robbins, Tony. “Conflicting Values: Sabotaging Your Success”. August 21, 2014. YouTube. 

Dr. Sarah Schewitz.  “Navigating Different Values in a Relationship”. July 22, 2022. 

Zbroniec-Chimenti, Joanna. “The Psychology of Internal Conflicts”. October 7, 2017.



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